How to leave your wife
I can see few material differences between breaking up and colonoscopy.
Make up your mind as to whether you want your ex-partner to escape lightly or suffer deeply. Then apply pattern B or pattern A respectively.
The picture is from Daniel Kahneman's Nobel prize lecture. I suspect a similar principle applies to spending time with your kids.
Well that says it all. There is so much shit on the internet. Looking for advice on a troubled relationship and I see this shit. Well done mate